Choose your FOCUS

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Does every single human see the same thing? Have you ever been with someone and they say, oh, “Did you see that?” and you could not quite make out what they were showing to you or looking at? We all take in information differently AND different things matter to different people. We as humans also have the power to focus on what we want to focus on. We can choose to focus on what we think is wrong with everything around us or we can choose to look at what is great or what brings us joy all around us. Possibility!

In general us as humans create our own stress most of the time because of what we choose to focus on. If you focus on how crappy the weather is then you will be frustrated with the weather. If you focus on what you want for your future, that is what you are going towards.


You can live your life trying to get the square peg in the round hole. Focusing on something that leaves you frustrated and potentially angry. Or you can go on the adventure of finding many round pegs, or if you have many square pegs then the adventure is finding the square hole. Strategically picking your focus is so important in life. For example if someone is focused on passing an exam and is getting stressed and overwhelmed about it, their focus is not in the right place. They should be focusing on studying and taking action…to pass.

If you are focused on someone else’s behavior, something that did not turn out the way you wanted it to be, self doubt, judgment, the “what ifs” or really anything that does not make you feel good, you need to change your focus. There is always some sort of action behind changing your focus.


Here is what you do….

If you are in a frustrated state…ask yourself..

  • What am I focused on?
  • Is this useful? If it is putting you in an emotional state the answer is always no, but you have to make it funny, level with yourself and what is going on in your mind.
  • What is more useful to focus on?
          For example:
          -You get home and your husband has his hockey gear drying out on the kitchen floor…do you focus on the smelly hockey gear or the love for your husband?     
           -You make a mistake at work, do you focus on how “you think” people will think of you or on how to not make the mistake next time. If you focus on how to not make the mistake again, you will not…if you focus on other people…you will make the mistake again.
  • What can I take action on to help give me an experience to stay focused…..___________(fill in the blank)
  • Where do I want to be in 3, 5, or 10 years?
    -What can I focus on and have an experience in to go in that direction?